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It’s Not the Event—It’s the Feeling: Associations Are Built on Emotion

Published on: 14th April, 2026

We tend to look at behavior and point to the obvious—that dog, that noise, that moment—and assume we understand what caused it. But what if the event isn’t actually the thing your dog learned from?

In this episode, I’m breaking down how associations are really formed, and why it’s not the event itself that matters most—it’s how your dog felt in that moment.

Associations aren’t just “good” or “bad.” They can be neutral, layered, and often far more complex than what we see on the surface. A single experience can carry multiple associations, some obvious, some completely missed. And those associations are shaped by your dog’s emotional state within the environment, the situation, and everything happening around them—not just the one thing we tend to focus on.

This is where things can get tricky.

Because if we’re only addressing what we think the association is, we can miss the bigger picture—and in doing so, unintentionally reinforce the very behaviors we’re trying to change.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the “right” things but not seeing progress, this conversation will help you see what might be getting missed—and how to start looking at your dog’s experience in a completely different way.

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DogSpeak: Redefining Dog Training
Talking behavior and giving owners the tools they need to improve their relationship with their dog.

Understand your dog better with DogSpeak founder, Nikki Ivey--a professional Canine Behavior Specialist, trainer and Family Dog Mediator. Learn why it's not about just fixing your dog's behavior but about understanding why the behavior is occurring. Nikki often shares the mic with wife and DogSpeak manager, Britteny, along with other fantastic guests. Whether the discussion is about real life manners, inappropriate behavior or nutrition, this podcast has it all. We focus on building relationships, not dictatorships. Learn more about DogSpeak and Nikki Ivey by checking out www.dogspeak101.com. Become a Patreon member by visiting www.patreon.com/dogspeak 

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Nikki Ivey

Nikki Ivey is DogSpeak's™ founder, trainer and canine behavioral specialist. She is a certified Family Dog Mediator and Pet Food Nutrition Specialist. She has been training dogs and their owners since 1996. Nikki primarily works with dogs displaying behavioral issues such as dog and human aggression, fear and anxiety. In addition to in-home sessions, she hosts the DogSpeak™ podcast, and teaches multiple workshops and seminars.

Nikki is a former search and rescue handler, instructor and trainer.

Nikki owned and operated one of the first daycare facilities in the Nashville area, and now assists daycare and kennel owners in their own facilities. She has also written multiple books and produced several online courses to assist pet owners, business owners and their staff, and rescue organizations.

In her free time, Nikki enjoys spending time with her family (including 2 dogs and 3 cats), working out and hosting The Full Breakdown podcast with co-host, Julie Roberts.